tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post2180242502731503809..comments2023-05-10T10:34:18.873-05:00Comments on The Windy Wilsons: Same Old {Grief} StoryB. Wilson @ Windy {City} Wilsonshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17479551028143520755noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-4853379238254538912014-10-07T00:08:20.423-05:002014-10-07T00:08:20.423-05:00I'm not even going to read everyone else's...I'm not even going to read everyone else's comments because I don't want them to color my own.<br /><br />I wish I'd written this. Because I want to plagiarize it word for word (except the parts about two living kids, but hopefully that will come). And I just wanted to say that Anger was my primary emotion in the year leading up to 4 as well. This year, coming on 5, it has been anxiety almost immediately turning into numbness and shock again as we get closer to dreaded, bare, can't-breathe December. <br />But I find it utterly comforting in a "I didn't know I needed to hear someone else say it so much" kind of way that you wouldn't use the words happy or content to describe yourself, even with all the good things you (we) have now. <br />Me either. And I don't know that I ever will either. And I 'm damn glad to know I'm not alone in that, the feeling of forever broken and okay but never the same sort of happy I once knew. Changed in a way that can't be fixed.<br />I just appreciated this post so much. I practically want to print it! Will be coming back to read it again (and again), I promise you that.<br />Thank you Brandy.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14042635150884274413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-9954902124453529062014-10-05T21:49:11.538-05:002014-10-05T21:49:11.538-05:00isn't this the complete and shitty truth.isn't this the complete and shitty truth. Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00136730311790093702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-11415458230777962882014-10-01T22:33:54.841-05:002014-10-01T22:33:54.841-05:00I appreciate your honest truths. I'm right t...I appreciate your honest truths. I'm right there with you. Anger, disbelief, mostly sadness. Love to your ABC.Mama Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15448908179398529689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-47541091333054337072014-10-01T19:32:09.848-05:002014-10-01T19:32:09.848-05:00#truth
Oct is here and I'm gasping for air. �...#truth<br /><br />Oct is here and I'm gasping for air. 😔Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17906643480459302192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-48276596894500326702014-10-01T13:52:01.834-05:002014-10-01T13:52:01.834-05:00Sooo agreed. I remember years ago when all we want...Sooo agreed. I remember years ago when all we wanted was to finally be at home with our living kids. And while it is wonderful, there are often a lot of spare moments to think, wonder, wish... (some days.) Grief season. How has is been almost 4 years?LookItsJessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15098271882501686853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-19488564070455398022014-10-01T13:29:55.123-05:002014-10-01T13:29:55.123-05:00This resonated in me. Thank you Brandy. So much tr...This resonated in me. Thank you Brandy. So much truth here. Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04765311698457480243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-5348842282258719182014-10-01T11:57:18.407-05:002014-10-01T11:57:18.407-05:00The part about being a mom being a lonely job in i...The part about being a mom being a lonely job in itself hit me a bit. And today, it being cold and gloomy... being a sahm this winter - in toddler town - is already letting thoughts of getting down all the time creep in as outdoor activity and interaction are golden in the warmer months..<br /><br />The anger and not accepting ... I could repeat what you said word for word. And even the god stuff.<br /><br />I'm glad we have each other. It's not enough.. but something <\3Veronicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06281894679573984580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-49707077747898843242014-10-01T06:43:31.254-05:002014-10-01T06:43:31.254-05:00I know how you feel. While I'm so grateful tha...I know how you feel. While I'm so grateful that I can stay home with my living kids, I do think the long days lend themselves to reflecting on the one who is missing. I cry all the time, but in short bursts and often for no apparent reason. I can't tell if it's my grief, or just post partum hormones. My New Normalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03482513767849843084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-33180531474085949612014-10-01T00:27:21.373-05:002014-10-01T00:27:21.373-05:00Grief season. Truer words have never been written....Grief season. Truer words have never been written. Impending doom is how I feel. How will I survive this yet again? How will I survive this 20 years from now? Ameliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07115154893444857726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-34163449365906957992014-09-30T21:16:55.442-05:002014-09-30T21:16:55.442-05:00Well said. I can imagine that those times when jus...Well said. I can imagine that those times when just being a mom is so hard and monotonous that missing your baby makes it downright unbearable. I miss you and your entire family, even the little ones I haven't met. Alison G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11298301912789282458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-44610537745860588152014-09-30T20:14:14.109-05:002014-09-30T20:14:14.109-05:00I agree that it is harder being home. Your options...I agree that it is harder being home. Your options for adult companionship are usually other young moms who neither want to nor can relate to what you've been through. Part of me will be incredibly sad to have the baby phase end, but the other part of me knows that life will be easier emotionally when we're all past having babies. <br /><br />And just know that we all realize you are a mom to three and that you are loving all three daily.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17535047941642148693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-79834597820060725532014-09-30T19:41:27.250-05:002014-09-30T19:41:27.250-05:00I havne't been on here in a while life is busy...I havne't been on here in a while life is busy. <br />Thinking of you! xoSSMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09386893316993867668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-5087369617375976602014-09-30T17:15:03.228-05:002014-09-30T17:15:03.228-05:00I love you and your family. Five Wilsons, all my f...I love you and your family. Five Wilsons, all my favourites.<br /><br />I hear you. I've been feeling it creeping up on me and it stings. I think I've "Accepted" it as much as I ever will, but more in the concrete, "it happened and now we live without him for the rest of our lives". If I think about it too long I have difficulty believing we have been served such a shitty hand. <br /><br />Because there are so many people who have no idea and believe dreams really do come true. And I can't ever have my dream now. <br /><br />gah.Lj82https://www.blogger.com/profile/01067562341189588336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-9947200317556322912014-09-30T16:56:25.398-05:002014-09-30T16:56:25.398-05:00I can see what you mean about distractions and com...I can see what you mean about distractions and complexity. I'm really sorry for the screwed up equation here. It sucks.second floor dwellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05396097563553578967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-5686751661714358172014-09-30T15:14:40.871-05:002014-09-30T15:14:40.871-05:00I think you are totally right that being at home w...I think you are totally right that being at home with the kids keeps my grief closer to the surface it prevents me from being deeply distracted by more complex tasks or problems. Even the best parts of staying home highlight what (who) is missing. And you know I'm heading into the grief season right with you.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05946311309467296976noreply@blogger.com