tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post5653586378894887609..comments2023-05-10T10:34:18.873-05:00Comments on The Windy Wilsons: Infertility & Baby Loss, Comments AddressedB. Wilson @ Windy {City} Wilsonshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17479551028143520755noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-66573968369122584642011-08-04T14:03:23.124-05:002011-08-04T14:03:23.124-05:00This was really interesting, and I agree with one ...This was really interesting, and I agree with one of the above commenters-- I wish we would talk more at a coffee house or something. I've said it before (or at least thought it!), but I really think we'd be fast friends :)Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05292279414919447049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-37370915281852322582011-08-03T17:02:57.807-05:002011-08-03T17:02:57.807-05:00Thank you for writing this. I have been reading yo...Thank you for writing this. I have been reading your blog for several months now and I sometimes wonder how BLM relate with infertiles. I feel like I am both.<br />I am currently pregnant with twins (fingers crossed) that's the good news and I have a four year old.<br />The not so good news - 9 pregnancies, 7 losses one of those was a twin pregnancy and the most recent loss was at 20 weeks in February. I don't know how a woman could just "forget" or move on after infertility but I certainly know that woman claim that. The woman that I talk to IRL who have experienced all these things are NEVER the same. It effects their WHOLE life. As I have said for a long time - I will never move ON, I will only move forward.<br />Keep on writing. It helps others of us too.Flmgodoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10552638885168223394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-67828723612854855332011-08-02T08:24:07.689-05:002011-08-02T08:24:07.689-05:00Love this. Wish we were meeting up for coffee and...Love this. Wish we were meeting up for coffee and more conversation. Just like a book club! And my eye caught "responsible," too. YES, please. So true.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05946311309467296976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-70571101612788442612011-08-01T23:00:09.839-05:002011-08-01T23:00:09.839-05:00As someone who also lost a full term first born, I...As someone who also lost a full term first born, I can very much relate. I still read and commented on a lot of blogs by those who had lost later children, and to me it wasn't so much a jealous their older children were alive, but a deep fear in my bones that I'd never get to experience that myself. They spoke of how hard it was to explain the loss to their older children (and I agree, that would be brutal) but I had to come home to a silent, empty home and there was no one in the world who could tell me it wouldn't always be that way. And I knew if I was lucky to have another child, I would have to one day tell that child about their deceased sister. That is starting now in my house, and it isn't easy. I hate that Angus will grow up knowing this and that he'll never know any different. I also wish I got to experience just ONE day of pregnancy without the dark cloud of loss hanging over my head.<br />Anyway, I'm further down the road than you, but I can tell you it honestly feels like yesterday to me, to be where you are right now.<br />Hoping for you every day.<br />xoHope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-8046964887047925942011-08-01T19:30:53.129-05:002011-08-01T19:30:53.129-05:00Thank you for your prayers & comment on my blo...Thank you for your prayers & comment on my blog. This has not been an easy decision to make..as we know,no uterus=no baby. But we do have our almost 5 yo son, and he has my heart completely. There will always a sadness that I didn't get to be pregnant. No, ifs, ands or buts about it. <br />It just is what it is. And sometimes, it just plain stinks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-2613773443808396642011-08-01T17:22:59.787-05:002011-08-01T17:22:59.787-05:00haha I agree with Caroline’s book club comment!
...haha I agree with Caroline’s book club comment! <br /><br />I talked with a NICU nurse this weekend and she shared with me that she and her husband never were able to have their own children. She said she took it as a sign from God that they were not meant to have children (which I don't believe, but I wasn't going to argue "her truth" with her). She said that even though we were not able to keep Addison we were lucky to have a baby waiting for us in Heaven.<br /><br />I do feel lucky that we were able to have a baby at all, that I was able to get pregnant and did get to have those 40 weeks and 5 days with her, but as you know, it still wasn't enough. There are lots of times I am so appreciative of that time, but those times when I cry so hard it hurts it's easy to forget. <br /><br />We all experience loss (BLM/IF) it's different, but kind of the same. I feel like there is solidarity between the two groups.Addi's momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13162101241886761065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-6304001210143292112011-08-01T16:53:06.602-05:002011-08-01T16:53:06.602-05:00I'm starting to accept the fact that I am part...I'm starting to accept the fact that I am part of the recurrent BLM club, and its pretty awful. While not the same as IF, I can relate to so much of what you said in this post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-27837242492490786962011-08-01T16:15:19.916-05:002011-08-01T16:15:19.916-05:00Blogging really is like one big book club. Today&#...Blogging really is like one big book club. Today's book - Brandy's blog.<br /><br />But you have such great words and articulate your thoughts so well. I really liked what you said, "It should be a gift given to every responsible woman." - I'm just glad you threw "responsible" in there. I hate that you need a drivers license to drive, you need to be 21 to legally drink, yet MORONS are getting pregnant every day and flat out don't deserve it. It's cruel and bothered me even before suffering a loss.<br /><br />Thanks for your thoughts.Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00101380791416834049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-60067721894075228352011-08-01T13:54:40.986-05:002011-08-01T13:54:40.986-05:00Thank you for writing this. I have had a lot of th...Thank you for writing this. I have had a lot of the same thoughts and feelings as you and many others it seems. I did IUI with Liam and am ttc using IUI again. I would prefer to use nothing at all of course but then when I see myself complaining about how bad it sucks I think about all the people that have to do IVF or can never conceive at all and try to put myself in there shoes. Either way it sucks, especially after baby loss.<br />I def. had a hard time with other blm's who had another living child at first also. In a way I was jealous like you of that. I hated that no one outside of who was close to me knew I had a was ever pregnant and had a nursery and wanted my baby so much.<br />I also wonder about what its like to parent a child outside my grief. Can't wait to hear your thoughts on that.<br />Thanks for sharing all of thisBeckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.com