tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post8089368535603013873..comments2024-03-29T00:59:19.918-05:00Comments on The Windy Wilsons: He said it.B. Wilson @ Windy {City} Wilsonshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17479551028143520755noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-33813855970057457812015-08-31T15:23:14.373-05:002015-08-31T15:23:14.373-05:00My license plate reads "RMBR XXX (abbreviatio...My license plate reads "RMBR XXX (abbreviation for my daughter's name)." The other day we were looking for my car in a crowded lot, my son said, "There it is RMBR XXX! I can always find it because of the license plate." I said, "You will be lost if I ever get a new plate" (not that I ever intend to). He glared at me and said "You can't do that, that would be mean." I asked why and he said, "Because that's my sister's and she died." Like you, it hasn't been a secret but also not something we talk about a lot as it's pretty painful and I don't want his whole upbringing to be memories of a sad mommy. I was surprised at how blunt and honest he was. Glad in an odd way - at least he knows something of his sister before him but odd too.SuzyQponhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08035123281082043048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-29299805077964224542015-08-30T12:34:13.585-05:002015-08-30T12:34:13.585-05:00I agree with you. I think it is important for chi...I agree with you. I think it is important for children to see the love we have for their siblings. I think it affirms our love for them and our love for our family. I think it is healthy. It is interesting to hear their understanding of our love for their siblings and watch their connection to them grow in it's own way. Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04765311698457480243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-87839366515839416852015-08-30T12:34:13.289-05:002015-08-30T12:34:13.289-05:00I agree with you. I think it is important for chi...I agree with you. I think it is important for children to see the love we have for their siblings. I think it affirms our love for them and our love for our family. I think it is healthy. It is interesting to hear their understanding of our love for their siblings and watch their connection to them grow in it's own way. Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04765311698457480243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-46351895286947750862015-08-27T18:42:22.203-05:002015-08-27T18:42:22.203-05:00We get "Jack's in heben" a lot. Whic...We get "Jack's in heben" a lot. Which is cute and sad and awful.Lj82https://www.blogger.com/profile/01067562341189588336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-45318254301150047382015-08-27T18:31:07.760-05:002015-08-27T18:31:07.760-05:00Your last sentences said it all. We're choosin...Your last sentences said it all. We're choosing that path of honesty with our kids, too: they need to understand that love and memory are fierce and ultimately life wins. Even if death seems to have won once, it is not final. They need to understand human vulnerabilities, so that they can love generously in the present... not think that death waits only for the old. Innocence is not helpful, but faith and trust have been for our kids.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07109615964419461588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558486009931507220.post-57850222784031878062015-08-27T15:42:58.564-05:002015-08-27T15:42:58.564-05:00It's wonderful and heartbreaking to hear their...It's wonderful and heartbreaking to hear their little voices speak this truth. I wonder what they really understand but we have to start somewhere and the conversations about death and heaven and what it all means do keep getting more involved. I hate that our rainbows have to learn about death so young but I hope we are raising honest and empathetic people. It does get a little awkward when Bode tells strangers that Bear died. Because Ella also died and we walk or ride looking for dogs to pet a couple of times a day, the conversations happen quite frequently...Mama Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15448908179398529689noreply@blogger.com